Tensions and stress…arguments to perpetual nagging from elders…you get everything if you are of a marriageable age and not married. Tough questions like – Are you waiting for mesmerizing Gerard (Read: Gerard Butler) or angelic Kim (Read: Kim Kardashian)? Guess you have some magic wand with age defying miracles? So you believe in celibacy? Are you normal or there is recent radical transition in your interests towards a gender? From emotional melodrama to ground realities, you go through everything almost every day. Then comes turn of suggestions, why don’t you find someone nice and fall in love, I can help you meet someone really good, I know of a nice girl in my relation, he is our family friend’s son…and the list goes on. As human beings we all want a relationship but paranoid of the fact that I may end up being with the wrong partner.
We all want to fall in love and get blessed with a blissful life with our partner but have lot of apprehensions about this love relationship. A Relationship that will make us feel that we are loved to the core. I believe every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You understand, know, become friends and get mushy with. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "He swept me of my feet" or “She drives me wild and crazy”. Now, picture this expression, it implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then somebody pulled the ground below your feet or I am a disguised lunatic when she is around (PUN intended). If you have ever fallen in love you would agree that falling in love is spontaneous. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades away. It's a natural cycle of every relationship. Gradually sweet cute ever elating whispers of your spouse would intensify into endless yap, driving you nuts. Most certainly, I would agree that there is a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much subtle or even intolerable subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start introspecting, "Am I with the right mate?"
And as you reflect on the fairy tale of love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. But the answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could and TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few months/years later, because the key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. Like falling in love, sustaining and building love is not a spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It squeezes of your time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. It is a compound total of emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy which can only be felt and not tangibly expressed. Love is NOT a mystery. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Almighty determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!!
Yes, I am on a qui vive now !!!
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Sunday, May 16, 2010
A brush with … 3 Angels
Throughout history angels have inspired poets, artists, writers, prophets and all of us in some way or the other. Angels are associated with great nature, joy, beauty, fulfillment, laughter and peace. So today what happened was no different, an inspiration from not just one but three angels (The NATURE angel, the WILD angel and the PRACTICAL angel)…A brush with... 3 Angels.
When I was young and dependent on my mum for the lullaby to doze off, I use to often hear that angels are creations of God, the Divine Creator. Angels are celestial beings of a higher vibration and warmth level. They are loving, kind, gentle and wise. Today my knowledge domino makes me believe that Angels who I have met, follow a very important law, that of Free Will...a staunch believe in who they are …a law of being BINDAAS.
An average Saturday, some small time chores and never did I realize that I’ll get my way through to 3 angels … beaming with contagious energy, having best of time in each other’s company and exchanging choicest of humor, gossip and in vogue trends. Pronto I thought that for a lazy bum like me it was a fresh blow of oxygen. You need not wreck yourself too much to figure out how I discovered the angels in my life. Though the numbers of occurrences of angelic visitations is plenty in my life (ya right!!!) still there are different ways to tell if you are in the presence of an angel. Often the pure scent of flowers accompanies their presence. Sometimes an angel will announce its presence with a slight breeze even if all the windows are closed. The breeze is the flutter of angel wings (read: warmth). Sometimes you’ll hear the faint sound of bells or chimes or trumpets (even though nothing like that exists miles away physically). The most common way to tell if you are in the presence of angels is by the warm wave of love that washes over you. Like a leaf falling softly on the still pool of our consciousness we will recognize their presence. Too philosophical, so who inspired me to be this philosophical, well they are my Nature Angel, Wild Angel and Practical Angel.
The Nature angel is sensuous and very close to nature, but at first glance she's every man's grade school valentine. I might as well admit that she is like the modern, emancipated woman, with her cast-iron image. She is eternally feminine in all seasons. At the risk of making an understatement, men are drawn to her like bumblebees to a honey pot. Almost all the times she is delightfully vague, dreamy and womanly; adapts beautifully and quietly to conflicting situations that would turn other women into nervous Nellies. She's terribly sentimental, and when her feelings are wounded she can cry buckets and feel that she is hopelessly unequipped for the fierce battles and driving ambition required to survive. She is all girl, one hundred percent.
Wild angel has deep, mysterious beauty. She's magnetic, proud and totally confident. She certainly has enough glamour and she's enormously seductive. It's just that, unconsciously, she would prefer to be a man; Less restriction-more opportunity. She is no kitten rather a human X-ray machine. Unless you mean business, you're wasting her time. I'm well aware that this dangerous femme fatale can hide her power of retaliation with a tremulous smile, gentle mannerisms, and the most breathless voice. There's a private part of life to this angel you'll never touch, a part of her mind and soul that belongs strictly to her, and there's absolutely no trespassing there. No relation should be disturbing her secret individuality. She can be overbearing and domineering, sarcastic and frigid- then turn as hot as an oven at 500 degrees Fahrenheit. One thing you can be sure of- she's never wishy-washy.
Razor sharp features, pleasant smile and a practical outlook towards life is how is would like to define my last but not the least angel, The Practical angel. You have very little chance to escape, once her eyes meet yours. She looks for ambition and courage. A high degree of intelligence is required to match her own excellent mind, more than a passing acquaintance with abstract and philosophical wisdom. She's brimming over inside with passion, though it's kept under rigid control by a poised, frosty attitude toward strangers ‘coz she is very practical. She's never just slightly interested or casual. Her dignity in human relationships can make her seem aloof and snobbish as she is highly selective in friendships. They'll keep the worthy companions through an entire lifetime, and freeze the shallow, the common or the unworthy. There's an immense store of perseverance and determination buried in the nature of this angel. She obeys one law…her own law.
While introspecting how my life have been touched, I figured out that these angels are heavenly. They made me affirm my belief that angels are so close to all of us, they are just like us yet full of conviction, being there selves and bindaas. If their faces shine with unearthly light, it is because they are filled with that one Light. A light called charismatic divine.
Expect a miracle. Expect an angel.
By - Vikram Singh
(inspired by 3 girlies )
When I was young and dependent on my mum for the lullaby to doze off, I use to often hear that angels are creations of God, the Divine Creator. Angels are celestial beings of a higher vibration and warmth level. They are loving, kind, gentle and wise. Today my knowledge domino makes me believe that Angels who I have met, follow a very important law, that of Free Will...a staunch believe in who they are …a law of being BINDAAS.
An average Saturday, some small time chores and never did I realize that I’ll get my way through to 3 angels … beaming with contagious energy, having best of time in each other’s company and exchanging choicest of humor, gossip and in vogue trends. Pronto I thought that for a lazy bum like me it was a fresh blow of oxygen. You need not wreck yourself too much to figure out how I discovered the angels in my life. Though the numbers of occurrences of angelic visitations is plenty in my life (ya right!!!) still there are different ways to tell if you are in the presence of an angel. Often the pure scent of flowers accompanies their presence. Sometimes an angel will announce its presence with a slight breeze even if all the windows are closed. The breeze is the flutter of angel wings (read: warmth). Sometimes you’ll hear the faint sound of bells or chimes or trumpets (even though nothing like that exists miles away physically). The most common way to tell if you are in the presence of angels is by the warm wave of love that washes over you. Like a leaf falling softly on the still pool of our consciousness we will recognize their presence. Too philosophical, so who inspired me to be this philosophical, well they are my Nature Angel, Wild Angel and Practical Angel.
The Nature angel is sensuous and very close to nature, but at first glance she's every man's grade school valentine. I might as well admit that she is like the modern, emancipated woman, with her cast-iron image. She is eternally feminine in all seasons. At the risk of making an understatement, men are drawn to her like bumblebees to a honey pot. Almost all the times she is delightfully vague, dreamy and womanly; adapts beautifully and quietly to conflicting situations that would turn other women into nervous Nellies. She's terribly sentimental, and when her feelings are wounded she can cry buckets and feel that she is hopelessly unequipped for the fierce battles and driving ambition required to survive. She is all girl, one hundred percent.
Wild angel has deep, mysterious beauty. She's magnetic, proud and totally confident. She certainly has enough glamour and she's enormously seductive. It's just that, unconsciously, she would prefer to be a man; Less restriction-more opportunity. She is no kitten rather a human X-ray machine. Unless you mean business, you're wasting her time. I'm well aware that this dangerous femme fatale can hide her power of retaliation with a tremulous smile, gentle mannerisms, and the most breathless voice. There's a private part of life to this angel you'll never touch, a part of her mind and soul that belongs strictly to her, and there's absolutely no trespassing there. No relation should be disturbing her secret individuality. She can be overbearing and domineering, sarcastic and frigid- then turn as hot as an oven at 500 degrees Fahrenheit. One thing you can be sure of- she's never wishy-washy.
Razor sharp features, pleasant smile and a practical outlook towards life is how is would like to define my last but not the least angel, The Practical angel. You have very little chance to escape, once her eyes meet yours. She looks for ambition and courage. A high degree of intelligence is required to match her own excellent mind, more than a passing acquaintance with abstract and philosophical wisdom. She's brimming over inside with passion, though it's kept under rigid control by a poised, frosty attitude toward strangers ‘coz she is very practical. She's never just slightly interested or casual. Her dignity in human relationships can make her seem aloof and snobbish as she is highly selective in friendships. They'll keep the worthy companions through an entire lifetime, and freeze the shallow, the common or the unworthy. There's an immense store of perseverance and determination buried in the nature of this angel. She obeys one law…her own law.
While introspecting how my life have been touched, I figured out that these angels are heavenly. They made me affirm my belief that angels are so close to all of us, they are just like us yet full of conviction, being there selves and bindaas. If their faces shine with unearthly light, it is because they are filled with that one Light. A light called charismatic divine.
Expect a miracle. Expect an angel.
By - Vikram Singh
(inspired by 3 girlies )
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