Robots are from Mars and Dolls are from Venus

Undoubtedly, I strongly believe Robots are from Mars and Dolls are from Venus.
On popular request of some of my follower friends I thought of taking plunge on this ironically sensitive topic. Needless to say I have greatly admired the studies of John Gray's series Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus but I have a different perspective --- I think both are from planet earth the only way they could ideally be separated is by saying that Robots are from Mars and Dolls are from Venus (read : when the men are on their ulterior self and women on their beautiful self or vice versa)

People have behavioral patterns. Those patterns are unique for each of us. I agree that some patterns too intense and could be a reason to behave in a particular way but trust me most of human beings would behave in the same way, in a given situation irrespective of their gender. Men and women both get profoundly disturbed by rejection, disapproval, or feeling alone and abandoned. ‘Women are more caring’ -- does that mean that men aren't caring? That's offensive to me. Guys can have a need to share their feelings as much as women have an occasional need to hide in their cocoon. Although men and women value love equally and place the same emphasis and importance on finding and sustaining a close union, there is generally a difference in the way they relate to intimacy.

The intriguing clash between men and women is always present. Men continue to dance between the desire for autonomy and the desire for intimacy. Women continue to seek affirmations of intimacy. A woman's bonding zone, the position where she feels comfortable and fulfilled, is very close to 100% attached. Men alternate between a wish for attachment and a wish for separateness. They feel most comfortable and willing to bond in the middle; they want to be between separated and attached. When men reach a state of attachment, they experience anxieties about engulfment and weakness. Conversely, when they move too far in the direction of separateness, they begin to feel subtle but nagging fears about abandonment, isolation, and aloneness. "When you compare this with women's ideal zone for bonding, it becomes clear that there is a built-in clash between what women want and what men want."

"We may mistakenly believe that differences exist only during the early stages of love and that with sufficient caring, trust, and time we eventually will become one with our lover and will experience no more conflict." It won't happen. So the bad news is that "Love with a capital L" will not magically alter. However, "Love" doesn’t simply materialize. It gets its own contours by all life's experiences. So the good news is that if "Love" is learned, it can be changed. It is possible to understand the differences between men and women and then learn to deal with them. Men need recreation in order to relax. Women need loyalty in order to feel secure. Both need their own interests but they also need interests that overlap. They need playtime together. Both need their own space and privacy but they also need to come together and support each other. He needs a lot of recreational time together. She needs the support and loyalty that makes her feel secure.
When a woman usually goes her way while a man usually goes his way, the "ways" often part. When he does not support her, she may look for security elsewhere. When she doesn't act as a recreational companion, he may look for a playmate elsewhere.

But if books advocating the notion of gender differences are so not believable then why do they sell like hot pan cakes? "People like to hold on to their conventional thought process because they make life efficient. "If you can look at a man or woman and not have to understand them or decide anything about them, but instead just apply a kind of shorthand to them, then it makes life easier for you." I think it is less to do with gender and more to do with your personality. It's a great thing to realize that everyone doesn't think like you, but that it's not because they're a man or a woman, it's because they're human.
Understanding the opposite gender means understanding that gender differences, intimacy factor, attached and separate, gender roles and gender correctness are magnified by relationships. Both genders are important to nurture life in this universe and hence my reasoning in favor of both Robots and Dolls.

Why it is great to be a man!
· A 5 day vacation requires only one suitcase
· You can open all your own jars
· When clicking thru the channels you don't have to stop on every shot of someone crying
· People never glance at your chest when you're talking to them
· You don't have to lug a bag of "necessary" items with you everywhere you go
· Your last name stays put
· You can be showered and ready in 10 minutes
· The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades
· You don't have to curl up next to some big, hairy guy every night
· If you're 34 and single, no one notices
· Chocolate is just another snack
· You never have to miss a sexual opportunity because you're not in the mood
· You can buy condoms without the shopkeeper imagining you naked
· You need not pretend you're "freshening up" when you go to the bathroom
· You don't have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt
· You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes

Why it is great to be a woman!
· A simple "smile" may add divine value to guy’s stupid one-liners.
· You can have shoes of different heights
· The bedroom is yours, the living and dining rooms are yours.. infact the whole house is yours
· If you said : "I love my mother" no one thinks it sissy
· If you said : "I love my father" no one thinks you have homosexual tendencies.
· When you cause driving accidents, no one beats you up.
· My mind not only wanders, it sometime leaves completely…short term memory loss.
· I know what Victoria's Secret is. The secret is that nobody older than 40 can fit into their stuff.
· We pout better (those puppy dog eyes always work!)
· We always get to choose the movie
· Men unlock our side of the car first - a real bonus when its cold
· PMS is a legal defense for murder
· 2 words- multi orgasmic…I wonder if any guy doesn’t know
· Sweat is sexy on us
· We have a higher tolerance to pain
· We don’t have excessive amounts of body hair …exceptions exist though
· We can throw a punch at a man and not get hit in return
· Women smell better
· Women make their boyfriends mad, we don't have to waste money on flowers or cards - a good 'make out' fixes all
· When women are short, we're petite, when men are short, there are dwarf
· Last but not the least, just a simple yup..yup..yup is enough to drive a man crazy

By:-
Vikram S Bhatia